In response to my last post regarding the must-read "The Middle Place" by Kelly Corrigan, an Anonymous commentor left me this priceless little paragraph:
" As uncomfortable and angsty as they might be,
the middle place years are your true salad days.
"salad days, / When I was green in judgment, cold in blood."
-Wm Shakespeare, Antony & Cleopatra
Most often "salad days" refers to the time of youth after high
school or college before you marry. But for those of us who
have met our lifemates, the days before children are true
salad days. With more money and time at your disposal,
vacations and lazy days at home, long nights together with no
fear of interruption are the days you will look back on in the future.
They will sustain you through life's challenges and help renew
your love when you think all is lost. "
Dear Anonymous Commentor,
A true and deep heartfelt thank you goes out to you. You do not know the depth to which your words touched me and how those words have moved and reassured me. This "middle place" holds many unknowns, for both a young wife and a young woman. Unknowns filled with both fear and hope. It thrills me and excites me to continue filling these days sans children with those lazy days and long nights you speak of. I know the future holds many things for us; challenges as well as celebrations. I cannot wait to spend, and promise to spend these "days" strengthing the foundation between myself and my husband for the benefit of our future. I've thought about these words a lot today and I'm sure will continue to think about them in the future. It sounds like you've had some experience. Thank you. Thank you for answering those silent questions of a woman and a wife, stuck happily in that middle place.