Saturday, October 15, 2011

Because When I Shared My Story? You Did, Too.

The pain of losing a child is unimaginable and something no parent should ever have to bear. 

October 15th is National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day. If you've been a longtime loyal, you most likely read my story back in October of 2008. Some of you have even gone as far as to light a candle for me on this day these past few years. 

For that, I thank you.

I'll be honest. It's not something I like to think about and in truth, it's something that I rarely talk about. When I do, it's simply "remember that first time I was pregnant?" I hate that it is a part of my history and truth be told, I struggled with sharing this story here again. 

But then I remember how so many of you emailed. So many. And shared your story with me, even if you hadn't yet shared it with family and friends. Or perhaps you had, but you hadn't yet written about it, sharing it with the blog world.

And I'm not sure I can ever tell you just how much that meant to me. So here I am,  sharing my story, once again, in hopes that it may give someone reading out there peace and hope in themselves. 

Click to read what I wrote back in October of 2008.

Tonight we'll be squeezing C just a little bit tighter and lighting a candle for all of those who have suffered and now remember.


  1. I cried big fat tears reading this. I don't know the pain of miscarriage but I do know a mothers love from that very first plus sign. Sending you hugs today.

  2. *Hugs* Your post in October '09 brought tears to my eyes. Thinking of you today.

  3. you know I'm with you here.. Thinking of you girl. Even if we don't think about it or talk about it a lot, its still there. So hugs girl.. Xoxo

  4. I don't even have to go back and read it because I remember it so clearly...your post was so encouraging to me because I was the first of my friends to lose a pregnancy (twice). I was so ashamed the first time that I didn't even tell anyone what had happened and I felt SO ALONE. You seemed so hopeful - and I knew then that someday I would get to that place where you were.

    I've been a loyal Loyal ever since this post - and you are the reason I wrote mine :) I hope maybe someday my post can do for someone else what yours did for me. I love you more than you know!

    Hugs & big wet kisses!


  5. I thought I was a long time reader, but apparently not long enough. I never knew you suffered from a miscarriage. My heart breaks for you and all women that have gone through that.

    Thinking of you today! {{{HUGS}}}

  6. I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I myself miscarried once before Mia and I've come to terms with it, but it took me a very long time. However I have a dear friend who lost her baby just weeks before her due date and THAT I could never imagine. It was just weeks after I had Mia. She started Layne's Project after her daughter. Here is a link to her website. I put together the memory bags once a year. ((Hugs)).

  7. Hugs to you sweet friend. I didn't know this part of your story, and as I sat here reading..I felt that pain in the bit of my soul imagining what you have gone through. But at the end, you mentioned God had a greater plan for you..and now you have Carter, and your world is bright, and your faith is strong. God certainly brought joy back to you and your husband, and you will forever be stronger for it. God bless your family, and thank you for sharing. xo

  8. You reached out to me when I miscarried, I'll always remember that. In fact, I got my first comment or email from you the week we were at the beach (ermm...making Emeline, tehehe..TMI? yes?) and it just felt nice to know someone else was out there, too. Understanding. So, thanks. I always love getting emails from readers about how our stories have helped them feel normal. I know you can relate!

  9. Thinking of you...I think there are more of us out here than any of us realize. I was about 8-10 weeks along in May of 2008 when I had a miscarriage. We had not told anyone yet; there was no heartbeat at the first doctor visit but the doctor thought that I was not as far along as I thought. I just knew though, that something was not right. Sure enough, at the next visit a week later, no heartbeat. I did eventually share the news with my mom, sister, and some close friends. I had to, because I wasn't sure how I was supposed to deal with it. My SIL has been through 3 miscarriages, 2 after successful IVF procedures. We have our fingers crossed right now for her that things go well this time. I know I hug Tommy extra every day knowing what so many other women go through. Sending some hugs to you AP!

  10. I'm sorry I didn't see this back on the 15th - thinking of you, AP.


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