Thursday, May 10, 2012

Thank You.

When I write a post like the one I wrote yesterday, it's never written seeking validation or praise. It takes a lot to make me doubt myself as a mother, but using words like "selfish" and "ungrateful" is a great place to start. 


That being said I have to say I am so thankful for each and every single comment that graced the page of I Love You More Than Carrots and every single tweet and re-tweet that ping'd on Twitter yesterday. 


Your comments were refreshing, re-energizing and a true testament to how incredible the blogging world (and ILYMTC Loyals) truly is.


I felt compelled to write that post because I fully understand the stigma behind a mother's wish for a "break," a "respite" and a "reprieve." Although that woman's ill and untrue words stung me, I wanted to share them with you and other mothers out there, knowing that there were times when they, too, felt like failures for needing to step back and take a breather from their mothering. 


I'm no expert. I'm only a girl who was once a nurse who became a wife who has been trying her hardest to be the best mother she can be since July 30th, 2010. 


Back in 2008, I set out to write this blog to share my story. My struggles. My praises. My highest highs and my lowest lows, all while maintaining some sense of grace and muttering the occasional f-bomb.   


I hate giving attention to the negativity that finds its way onto the pages of ILYMTC as it's much easier to address that than the immense outpouring of love, support and laughs that is seen so much more regularly around these parts. 


So for all of that? The positivity, the shared stories, the laughs and the encouragement? 


I thank you from the bottom of my heart. 


10 comments :

  1. Well put!
    We are all figuring it out as we go along (one tantrum and meltdown at a time).

    Hope you have a very Happy Mother's Day!

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  2. Hugs, my dear.

    You rock.
    Some people have no couth, nor understanding.

    AND FOR THE RECORD.... I think honesty is much more appreciated here than making pregnancy and motherhood sound so much more glamorous than it is. I kind of thought pregnancy wasn't the greatest overall. The end result, OF COURSE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! But it sure isn't easy. And if the truth be told, I'd mildly terrified of future pregnancy #2 with a toddler in tow. [insert panic attack] ;)

    Much love to you this morning!! :)

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  3. I am not a mother (yet, hopefully), but even I can see that yes, sometimes you need a break. and in NO WAY does that make you a bad mother - it makes you human. Every human needs a break from something at some point. A break from work, a break from your spouse, a break from your family, a break from your kids. It is healthy.

    I missed your earlier posts, but I just want to say that some people will always be on their "high horse", looking to tear other people down because of their own insecurities.

    You're doing the best you can, which I'm sure is absolutely wonderful. It is all any of us can do.

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  4. You rock mommy! As someone not a mother yet, I find you inspiring and refreshing and HONEST. There's no question how much you love M1 and M2. You just keep it real- the good, the bad, the hilarious, and the difficult. I have enough mommy friends in real life to know that all those unrealistic "perfect world" blogs with mom authors who seem to have it all together and never want a second away from their children are just that- UNREALISTIC.
    Keep it up- we love you!

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  5. Real life- some people just cannot hang. Motherhood means wanting a break and hardly ever getting one. Sometimes your heart just needs a break from loving so intensely :)
    I'm sorry that negative words and sad heart found their way onto this blog, but you handled it with a lot of grace and class! I would expect nothing less!

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  6. My question is .... did little miss troll make an appearance on THAT post? I'm guessing not.

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  7. I don't think I ever got around to posting a comment yesterday, but I absolutely love the way to responded!

    Being new to the whole pregnancy thing, I can only imagine what mothering is like. I thought alot about what was said, as I know I've judged moms in the past. I can relate to being in a place where you don't know if you'll ever be able to experience motherhood, and unfortunately, jealousy is an ugly beast. I don't think I ever lashed out at anyone, at least I hope I didn't, but I certainly remember thinking people should stop complaining about what they have. I realized yesterday, that kind of attitude will only set me up to feel like a failure as a mother. Of course I'll need a break! Doesn't mean I'll be taking anything away from my gratitude for the gift of this baby that we waited so long for! Thanks for reminding me of that!

    If I can handle motherhood with an ounce of the humor and honesty that you do, I'll consider myself a success!

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